Part 41 The Chronicles Of Being Sarah Marie
“You Just Can’t Make This Shit Up;
Who, What & How The Fuck Have I Survived The Unthinkable!”
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"Surviving is the ultimate plot twist; you didn't just escape the fire, you walked out with enough spark to light up the whole world—and probably the sense to never let anyone play with matches near you again. Remember, you aren't just a survivor; you're the masterpiece that the storm couldn't wash away.”
I just wanted to share a few nuggets of encouragement on the importance of staying the course toward your higher calling.
Even when you encounter opposition or forces that seek to derail you, it is vital to remember that your purpose is greater than any obstacle placed in your path.
These challenges often arise not to defeat you, but to test the resolve of your spirit and the depth of your commitment.
When the forces of negativity or ill intent try to stop you, let that be the very signal that you are close to a breakthrough. Stay grounded in the truth, maintain your focus, and continue to move forward with unwavering faith.
Your journey is unique, and the world awaits the fulfillment of the purpose only you can achieve.
Keep pressing onward. Light will always prevail over darkness when you remain steadfast in your mission.
On Thursday, March 26, 2026, I had another courtroom/classroom appearance almost 3 years post-divorce.
Our presiding Judge was absent so we were assigned to an alternate judge’s courtroom and had to reset for a future date.
It was packed. With every case announced, it highlighted the profound sadness associated with unnecessary complexities surrounding divorce, and devastating realities of the family court system.
It is a painful insight to realize that a system designed to protect the vulnerable can so frequently become a tool for the perpetrator.
For many petitioners/victims, the courtroom does not offer a sanctuary of justice, but rather a stage where their trauma is minimized and their experiences are silenced.
There is a deep, emotional weight in watching the legal process prioritize the rights of an abuser over the safety and well-being of those who have already suffered.
This systemic imbalance leaves survivors feeling re-traumatized by the very institutions meant to provide a path forward.
Having heard countless stories over the last 3 years, that are eerily similar to mine, or much worse; I believe it is crucial to acknowledge these structural failures and to advocate for a system that truly sees and supports survivors.
POST SEPARATION ABUSE is real and happening everyday to millions of families.
From: Post Separation Abuse | Amber Women's Refuge Kilkenny
https://amberservices.ie/is-it-abuse/types-of-abuse/post-separation-abuse/
“The end of a relationship doesn’t always mean the end of the abuse.
A controlling and abusive ex-partner may continue to try and exert control over you and your children (if you share them.)
They may also try to use others – family members, friends, members of the legal profession, the family court system and other agencies – to continue to harass and abuse you.
Impacts of Post Separation Abuse:
Post Separation Abuse can involve some or all forms of domestic abuse (coercive control, emotional, financial, digital/online, physical and sexual).
It can affect your mental health and can cause you to feel anxious and depressed, to self-harm and have suicidal thoughts. You may abuse substances to cope with this form of abuse.
Post Separation Abuse is a sustained campaign of harassment, intimidation, control and abuse.”
Does your ex-partner:
Do or say things that make you afraid?
Monitor your time/activity throughout the day?
Stalk you online/offline?
Control your access to money?
Block access to bank accounts and credit cards?
Delay/refuse to pay maintenance, even when court-ordered?
Make claims of being the ‘real’ victim?
Accuse you of being the ‘real’ abuser?
Misuse court proceedings to control, harass and financially drain you?
Refuse to follow court orders?
Deliberately cause delays in court proceedings?
Threaten to hurt you, or family members - even if they don’t follow through on the threat?
Threaten to kill you, your children or family members?
Try to damage your reputation?
Tell your family/friends/agencies that you have ‘issues’ and ‘need help’?
Make false claims of Parental Alienation?
Make false reports of fraud?
Delay/refuse to pay necessary bills?
Delay/refuse to pay joint mortgage?
Pressure you into selling your home?
Try to turn your children/family/support networks against you?
FOR A FULL LIST, CLICK THE LINK ABOVE.
Please don’t put your mental health on pause; or feel that you have to carry this weight on your own. Seek help if you need it!
You deserve to feel safe, respected and valued.
“I don’t think people realize how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a poisonous situation with someone you loved deeply. So if you’ve done that today or any day, I’m proud of you.”
—Horacio Jones
Love and Light,
Sarah Marie🌹
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